Though my first week in Costa Rica contained a lot of movement and activity (I overcame a BIG fear and tried surfing for the first time!), I've recently had a lot more time to sit with mySelf, tune into my heart, and be still. And this has stirred up a lot of thoughts about love and heartbreak and how I’ve acted in relationships up until this point. It's got me thinking about how often I’ve looked for love/security/joy/recognition/you-name-it in so many external sources.
And it made me feel kinda sad. Especially because I know I’m not alone and that so many of us still operate this way. In western society, in particular, we’re constantly looking for fulfillment outside of ourselves—in other people, experiences, things, and places.
More, more, more is the recipe so often dished out from a very young age. Distraction is the drug of choice and we are serious addicts.
I've also started reading Marianne Williamson's wonderful book, A Return To Love, which is based on the teachings from A Course in Miracles, and has (among LOTS of other ideas that I'll save for a later post) reminded me of how important it is to fill your own cup first. Or “water your plant” as I affectionately like to remind myself and my friends. Because the simple truth is this: You can’t pour from an empty cup, and someone else sure as hell can’t drink it for you.
Rather, you have to go within and listen to your own internal guidance system to bring out that which you want to create instead.
Want to attract someone wonderful? Then BE more wonderful. What to attract a creative career? Then BE more creative. Want to experience more love from your family? Then BE more loving to your family.
Like attracts like and it's ALL about energy, y’all.
So instead of expecting anyone/thing other than you to give you what you want/need, try focusing on embodying that which you desire. What brings you the most joy? What lights you up? What turns you on? What makes you feel expansive? What’s that one thing you would do everyday even if you didn’t get paid for it?
And if you don’t know yet, that’s totally okay—it's in there somewhere. Just start paying attention to what does (and what doesn’t). And over time, you’ll probably realize that you already have a lot of amazing things in your life. You just need to be a little more aware and a whole lot more grateful.
Soon enough, you’ll also begin attracting more of what you embody and focus your attention upon.
And for the record, it’s NOT selfish to do so, though I’m just BARELY beginning to understand this. It’s actually the best thing you can do for yourself, for those around you, and for the planet. Because the more joyful you become, the higher your vibration becomes, and the more likely you are to attract positive things into your life. It creates a ripple effect and the people around you will begin to shift as well.
It’s pretty cool.
So just do you. Relax. Have fun. And water your own friggin’ (internal) plant. Then by all means, please give your friend/lover/stranger the entire jug of water if it feels right.
With love + light,